Hes willing to move for me!!

When my boyfriend and I got together, we talked about everything related to the future immediately. We’re both 24 and want a lot in regards a shared future and a family so having those discussions was in order before getting too serious because I don’t want to waste my time going at different directions. However he lives in England while I live in Finland. Im trilingual and better adapted to stepping out of my comfort zone and travel whereas the first time he ever traveled was last year to see me and hes more of a person who prefers the comfort zone of his town and home, and we always talked about me moving to him as it just made the most sense. This move wouldn’t happen for a couple more years now but I got down the rabbit hole of seeing how migrating to the uk works and the applications, the money it costs and the possible lawyer wed need to hire, and it all overwhelmed me so bad that I majorly freaked out.

In order to calm down I decided to just do some research and noticed that migrating to Finland is a lot cheaper, easier and while the permit needs to be renewed every year for a certain amount of time, it wouldn’t make us bankrupt, it would allow us to be together on a much easier process that wouldn’t need a lawyer to be hired, I could literally get help from a social worker.

So he decided then that he would be making the move instead. The man who barely leaves his home county ever, the man who always preferred following the same comfortable routines and is absolutely terrified of learning the Finnish language because its so complex, has made up his mind and wants to follow me here. Hes made so much progress but telling me he’s willing to uproot his comfortable life for me, telling me he wants to marry me and take MY last name and that as terrified he is, he wants to learn my language because he wants to be able to communicate with my family and me.

His mother, sister & I had a conversation about him too. He has never shown this sort of dedication and passion towards any of his previous relationships (they weren’t ldr either) and they truly wonder what I did to this man for him to be so devoted that he would do anything to be together, even if that meant facing the biggest change of his life. Its good for him i know it. But i am truly so incredibly lucky to have found someone like him in my life.