Why do I keep attracting men who get scared and run away despite liking me?

These are guys who have been in relationships before, so it’s not like they’re incapable of it. But I keep going through this pattern:

1. I start seeing a guy, we REALLY hit it off.

2. Things escalate in some way (not even sex usually)

3. They pull back out of nowhere and either ask to be friends or ghost me.

4. They act extremely weird around me for weeks/months before it eventually comes out that they freaked out and didn’t know what to do.

I’ve heard “you are so beautiful I just can’t bring myself to try anything, I don’t want to ruin everything”

“I don’t know why I just self-sabotaged, I overthink and screw things up so I can’t be happy “

“I’ve been wanting to talk to you so much but I thought you wouldn’t want anything to do with me”

Mind you I am not mean or judgmental. I’m pretty universally known as a nice, easy-going person. Someone recently told me that she loves when I show up to events because I “instantly make every room a little brighter.” I’M A SWEETIE PIE GOD DAMN IT lmao

I don’t love bomb or treat guys like my soulmate after one date, so it’s not like I’m trying to speedrun a relationship and they’re justified in freaking out. Yet they always do. I don’t know what I could be doing to scare people off or the signs to look out for…