36 [M4F] Singapore/SEA/Online - another birthday, another try

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Another year has passed. Year after year it's getting harder to make meaningful connections - friendly or romantic. Not young anymore but not old yet. Too late for some dreams, yet too early for some plans. A weird middle time.

I'm not always that nostalgic. Usually I try not to think too much about things that are not in my control anymore. I'm a dreamer though, maybe improper one. I contrast my boring work with my creative passions - writing, drawing, painting. I love books, I love nature, I love travelling and being in awe with the world.

An important disclaimer - even though I mentioned Singapore and the whole SEA region in the title, I'm an European, currently living in Central Europe. I dream about travelling - and possibly moving - to Asia, in particular East or Southeast Asia. The countries of my interests are: Singapore, Korea, Japan, Thailand, Vietnam, Malaysia, Taiwan, Hong-Kong.

During covid lockodwn I fell in love with Mandarin language, Korean and Japanese literature, the whole history, traditions, food, landscapes of this part of the world that for most of my life escaped my attention (which I regret now).

I seriously consider moving to one of those countries and starting life there. I would be happy to meet a girl who could become my... everything? At some point at least. A friend, language learning partner, soul mate, girlfriend, lover, inspiration, dream, reality, longing, happiness. Everything is possible with time and being honest, but at the same time I don't want to put pressure on you or myself. I want things to develop naturally, to feel how bond between us gets tighter. Where does it lead? I don't know, but that's the beauty of meeting new people.

I've had my fair share of reddit experience - including the highest highs and the lowest lows. I've met wonderful women, I've been through great moments - even years of them - but also through ghosting and deception. That's the internet and that's the risk. Despite all of this, I still want to take this risk, as I believe that the potential benefits outweigh it by a far margin.

I'll be honest and say that I also have a preference for women from East/Southeast Asia. I don't want my post to sound wrong. But I also won't deny my preference.

Your ethnicity is not the most important thing though. I won't like you because you're Asian or not. I will like you because of who you are. And that's why I want to know you fully.

I want to know you, your feelings, plans, dreams, experiences, desires, successes and failures. Hopes and disappointments. Hear about your passions and things that you hate. Laugh with you, be there for you when you feel down, celebrate your achievements, cheer for you on your goals. Hear your complaints, confessions, jokes. Tell you good morning and good night. Look at the phone impatiently waiting for your message. Hear your voice. Be your lover, advisor, anchor. Feel free, secure and happy in your presence. Feel being cared about and give you the same feeling. Create the real bond on so many levels - like you, desire you, miss you. Share days and nights with you with all that comes with it. Your every day laughs and cries, successes and failures, hopes and fears. Dreams, regrets, experiences, intimacy and sex. On every level - the most basics to the deepest that maybe you're hesitant to explore even by yourself. I'd like to know the officcial and unofficial you. The public and private you. You with make up and you without it. I'd like you to open your soul and mind and I want to do the same. Talk about problems at work, laugh with silly jokes, discuss the books we read or series we watch. Be intimate. Talk about what hurt us the most and what we fear. What we want. Build a daily happiness brick by brick. I'd like to meet someone willing to fully open her life with all aspects of it to enrich my life and I'd like to do the same. With no shame, no fear, no judgements, expectations, convenances. Know you fully like no one else does. Know you as if we were one person. So when you're with me it's like you're naked in front of the mirror.

A few words about you - but these are no "requirements" or conditions by any means. I'm not looking for any particular "type". Rather just some light preferences (but these can always change, right?):

\- you're 18+ (girls around my age and younger are probably best match considering common interests and life experience);

\- you're honest and real - this is the only condition. I don't have strength and will to deal with lies. If you're unsure that you want to share something with me, it's better if you never do instead of lying about it;

\- you're single;

\- you like healthy/fit lifestyle and maybe sports. I don't mean being a gym freak or olympic level athlete, lol (I'm not any of that too), but taking care of your health and body and keeping at least average level of fitness.. That would also give me additional motivation to stay fit myself;

\- you have passions, hobbies, interests that you can talk about;

\- you don't shy away from intimacy when the time is right;

\- bonus points if you can speak Mandarin or Korean, as these are the languages I'm slowly trying to learn;

\- bonus points if you play games like LoL or Dota - maybe I can learn from you, haha.

I really believe that somehwere out there there is a girl who wants similar things. Lets try?

Please state your age and location in the first message. I hope this post reaches someone before it gets downvoted.