Is anyone else sick of people trying to get them to sympathize with their abuser?

Especially when they don't even know them? For me, the only thing they know about my mom is she abused me (physically and emotionally) and it's always: "maybe she has trauma," or “she’s probably just tired,” or “being a parent is pretty stressful.” And my favorite: "have you tried seeing things from her perspective?” I don’t give a shit about her perspective, she never cared about mine. One therapist even told me that I need to try harder to “connect to her.” And lectured me about wanting to go no-contact.