3 under 4

And I could sure use any advice.

I was recently told that I am already 4 months pregnant, while I have a 1 year old and a 3 year old. I’m terrified. Having 2 under 2 was a huge adjustment for me. Postpartum hit hard, especially with anxiety, depression, and OCD. It can take a couple hours for me to get us out the door at times, and I inevitably end up super overwhelmed by that point. I even went after an adhd diagnosis because everything seemed impossible to manage. Things are just settling down now that they can play together, and I’ve kinda lowered the expectations of my home being tidy every day (or ever lol).

But now, holy shit!! This one was a total surprise. May I please get any recommendations around parenting 3 youngsters, managing all their clothing, everything? I do have a wonderful husband who parents well, but we’re both overwhelmed at times by the noise and craziness of 2 toddlers already. I considered local parenting classes but they are all midday while I’m working.