AITAH for rebelling against my parent.

I, f19, am in a weird beef with my mom. Ever since I started college, I’ve been talking back to my mother. It was small, asking to stay late on campus, I live at home, or not letting her gave my phone cause I pay the phone bill on it. Recently it’s escalated. I got tested for adhd behind her back, along with taking meds she doesn’t approve, standing up for myself in how I take care of my dog. I started being passive aggressive during arguments, instead of just saying yes ma’am or mom. I leave the house whenever, I do tell where I’m going, and I started speaking to other family members about our problems, even tho she’s asked me not to.

Im currently taking a semester off because my mental health got worse in college, because I hated my major and felt trapped at home. It led to me trying to self exit last year. Anyway, I work two jobs cause I trying to save up enough money to switch schools and major in what I truly want, philosophy. She’s think I’m switching to go to a local school, cause in her words, “I should stay home to save home.” Not to say only that but I told her I was going to law school afterwards, which i’m not. I agree with her, but at the cost of my mental health it’s not worth it.

So it got worse recently. She came back from vacation, and she’s been in a pretty sour mood because of it. We’ve been arguing about what to feed the dog. The 10 days she was gone I fed him canned food, cause it’s cheaper and overall easier for me to do. She wants me to keep buying him ingredients to cook him human food, along with cooking it every five days. I barely cook for myself, and it hard with how much I work. I put my foot down and said no. It pissed her off so now we’re at war. I couldn’t use the car to go hang out with friends, and now everything I do pissess her off. Her thing is making sure the house is cleaned perfectly. She’ll pissed if my room smells off because of my dog, if he makes wet paw prints in front of the door. She’ll get mad if I leave clothes on my chair in my room. Stuff like that. I try my best, and it’s gotten better cause my adhd is medicated (which I pay for everything related to myself/ along with chipping in for gas/ and paying 250 for “rent”), but there’s always something I forget.

I today my mom I was heading into town in advance to hang out with my friends and get my bike fixed, cause i need to get to work somehow and uber is too much for me to take on a daily basis. I clean my room, empty the trash/ dishwasher, take care of my dog, and leave the house in the uber. Just as it leaves, my mom pulls up and tell me to come home on the phone. I say no, the ride was 25 and I tipped my driver 15 because he was more than nice helping get my bike in his car. We argue in the car, and she’s yelling so loud that the uber driver hears everything. She’s said that I don’t do anything at home without her asking, which is true, and to not let the little amount of money I’m making not get to my head cause she’s still the parent. She said that I better come back as soon as my bike is fixed. Im angry so I said no, I’m spending the day with my friends cause I barely get to see them cause I work all the time. She said that’s my fault cause I don’t have to work this much. I do, cause who’s going to pay for my school, meds, doctor appointments, hair/ body care products, etc. We argue some more, and she says 9pm. I’m feeling bold so I say no, my curfew is 12. She said that I better come home by 9pm, because we need to have a conversation about what goes on in the house or she’ll lock me out. I say fine locked me out. She goes on the phone for some more time, about what I don’t know, I muted her, and then hangs up. I didn’t plan on coming home late cause I left the house at 8:30 am, but now, fuck it, I’m coming at home at 12 am on the dot.

I’ll keep the house clean, cause it’s her life, but the way I see it, if everything at home is clean and taken care of, I’m going wherever I want, and Ill be back at 12 on the dot like we agreed about months ago. I’m not taking her calls, and if she try’s to come to my location, I’m taking it off. I know I’m being a rebellious “teenager,” but i’m tired of having to cancel hangouts cause my mom is mad, or having to call 988 cause I feel like I want to kill myself again.

I know Im being rude and I should treat my mom better because it’s always been the two of us, but I can’t take it anymore. AITAH?