First time looking to explore

We are a 38M/20F couple just starting to explore the Hotwife lifestyle and we would love some perspective from those who have been doing this for a while. We have a rock-solid foundation and have spent a lot of time talking through our boundaries, but being so new to this—especially with our 18-year age gap—we want to make sure we’re approaching everything the right way. We are specifically curious about how other age gap couples navigate the initial vetting process. With her being 20 and relatively new to these types of dynamics, we want to ensure we find men who are dominant and confident but also deeply respectful of our relationship and her comfort level. We’d love to know if there are specific "red flags" we should look out for that might be unique to a younger hotwife, or if there are ways we can lean into our age gap dynamic to find the best possible matches. If anyone has advice on managing the "newbie" nerves or tips on how to keep communication seamless while in the heat of the moment, we are all ears. We are incredibly excited to get started and want to make sure our first experience is as high-tension and successful as possible.