I need to know if I may possibly have something or I'm just being weird

Ok so I'm 17 at the moment so this might play a part into it but more recently I've started becoming very annoyed with my family. Unless I start the interaction I don't want to interact with them, don't get me wrong, I love my mom, I'm cool wit my sister, and my dad and I are working on it but any time my mom comes into my room it immediately irritates me because she immediately starts picking at stuff in my room telling me to clean it (I always make sure the litter is scooped and no food is left out AT LEAST, i'm a full time college student in essay/discussion board needed classes, I usually work 5 days a week for about 4-5 hours but since it's towards the end of slow season I usually work 3-4 days a week for 4 hours and I take care of my one year old cat while also making sure my sister is set since my mom is a CPS worker and my dad is active duty military so they work a lot)

I told her about this since I'm comfortable enough to talk to her about it and she took it as 'i wanna spend time with you instead of you just popping in and leaving' and I didn't have the heart to tell her I really meant if your only going to talk to me to pick at my room or things I haven't done yet then don't talk to me at all. She still does this and it's started to branch off to anyone in my family who starts a conversation with me and anytime someone calls my name I instantly get mad like 'OMFG LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!' kind of mad, same thing when they call me on my phone, it makes my stomach and drop the second I hear it vibrate and see 'mom' or 'dad' pop up on my screen then I get pissed.

I never tell my mom or dad this is how I feel because I dont want a lecture on how their the parent and I'm the child and just because I'm in college doesn't make me an adult and I have to do as they say and it's irritating. Now every month or so this cycle gets to much and I have a screaming melt down, not to them or Infront of them (happens on occasion but I'm never screaming so im assuming it comes off as me being overstimulated/ overwhelmed) but usually in the car before or after I drive off, after that I feel as though my body my brain and my consciousness are 3 separate people trying to do three separate things. My body feels depressed like I can barley get it to move and do what I need to, my brain has 80 different things going on like cycling through random memories, saying anxious words, suicide thoughts (I wouldn't act on them, I had tried self harm but it's not for me as a couping strategy if you will, usually I think about the after math of it all and how others around me would feel), random scenarios that end up pissing me off, thinking about my childhood trauma (I was molested a lot as a child, usually child on child or slightly older child on child, they always assumed I was sleeping and touched me and one went on for about 2 years between ages like 4-6), and my counsiouness is just there wondering 'ok uh, we got hella shit to do, why is we just sitting here? And why am I getting upset over shit that hasn't happened, and why am I thinking bout my childhood, outside of ass beatings, hurtful words, and monster high I don't remember anything before 9 so why dwell on it?'

I also have a slightly hard time keeping the same opinions of people over the smallest things, like my friend couldn't decide what she wanted to eat while I was driving and I barley talked to her the rest of the night even tho we found food, and more. Can anyone help me a lil?