Situationship? (21F) and (23M)

hey guys, i been talking to this guy, everything was great at first. we agreed we were working towards a relationship. one day, i got overwhelmed and self sabotaged because i knew my feelings were becoming too real and i told him i wanted to see other people so that way im not too hyperfocused/invested in him. i immediately regretted it and kept trying to make it apologize & fix my mistake, he kept shutting down. turned into 3 weeks of not getting over it. he said he didnt want a relationship anymore and he needs to work on himself but he still wants to be cool and talk. fast forward, im the one that told him i just want him for one thing, he seems thrown off because he keeps reaching out after i keep saying i dont want daily communication anymore & i’ll be the one to reach out when thats what i decide i want from him (i dont think i ever will tbh). but what does it seem like is transpiring in our situation?

TL;DR… he said he wanted to really fwm but after i said i wanted to talk to others it made him start overthinking. i wasn’t receptive of this message bc 3 weeks went by and valentine’s day was the day before he said this so i was like ??? it took you 3 weeks to say that and the situation could’ve been solved so i know i pushed him away with my responses because i felt abandoned and left in the dark questioning everything and beating myself up for saying it in the first place…