Am I bi??
See, there's a clear difference when I think abt men vs women. For me, I don't think I have ever found a man physically attractive until after I get to know their character. If I find their character attractive, they also seem physically attractive (most times). In saying that, I am, either way, definitely sexually attracted to men.
Women on the other hand, I can find attractive no matter if I got to know them or not. I can, just from a photo, find them attractive, which is rarely the case for men (who I have to know their character first)
I am confused what the attraction is though? Is it just platonic? Often it is a "I wish I was her" over a "I wish I could be her" but also, often, I just think "wow she is hot, if I was a guy, she would be my type"
See, I for the longest time felt like although I might be attracted to women, I am not attracted to the idea of a woman beinh attracted to me, or me being with a woman, sexually or romantically.
But as time goes on, I keep having occasions that make me question...
I think, I am sexually or physically attracted to females, but not romantically attracted to them.
Is this just that point where you can choose to label yourself as Bi, or choose to label yourself to be straight, and neither would be inaccurate?
Or am I definitely straight because I would never be with a woman, I would never be with her sexually or romantically, whereas I am sexually and romantically attracted to men.
Or am I bisexual, because despite that, I still fantasise about women on occasion (not as often) or find them attractive.
The current thing thats making me question it for the 100th time, is a manhwa I am reading, and, yk manhwa, characters always look good in those high effort art styles, and it has a lot of strong female leads. Its not unusual in these cases I find some of the females attractive, but it is different to how I react to the men. It is not that cozy fluttery feeling, just that "damn" fascinated by their beauty, even their personality, and sometimes I believe it is sexual attraction?
I have on rare occasion found women irl attractive in a similar sense, but again, never woule wish to be with them romantically. It is a very different feeling to how i feel about a man i find attractive, but I am wondering if it is still possible that I am in a way, bisexual, with no romantic attraction to women, or at least, no desire to act on my attraction to women?
Posted Feb 23, 2026, 5:57 AM UTC