Any advice for forming an identity not around your trauma or being mentally ill?

For the past almost 5 years I've been trying to heal from my trauma. It's been a very messy ride, but I'm finally seeing some really big improvements. My mind is functioning, more or less, like a normal person's, or at least how I imagine a normal person's. I have no frame of reference, lol. My whole life was truama and mental illness like most people here. The problem with recovery is that now I can see my recovery, I'm finding myself more and more trying to self destruct because I have no identity that's not connected to my trauma, and I feel like in getting better I ruined myself and I'm not human and that I don't feel anything the way I should. And I know that I'm never going to exist the way that the average person gets to exist. But I can get pretty darn close. And I'm going to. But I can't do that if I don't even feel like a real person outside of my trauma. Everything feels like a science experiment. But I have no idea how to form an identity that isn't my trauma. I know I'm more than my past logically. But knowing and feeling are so different, and I don't know how to get past this roadblock. So if anyone has any advice, I'd really appreciate it. Thank you so much and best of luck in your own post truama adventures! It's the crappiest adventure ever, but I have faith we're gonna make it.