Hey everyone, looking for some perspective?

My girlfriend and I have a really loving and healthy relationship. She is affectionate, caring, and our intimacy is honestly great. She gives me amazing oral, but she never finishes me that way. I asked gently once and she told me that in a past relationship it was expected of her and she felt pressured, so now she does not like taking it to completion.

I completely understand and respect that. I would never want to push her into anything she is not comfortable with. At the same time, I do really want that experience with her and sometimes feel a little conflicted about having a desire that I know is tied to something sensitive for her.

I love her and do not want her to feel obligated or pressured in any way. Just wondering how others have handled situations where you respect a partner’s boundary but still have a desire that probably will not be met. Is it best to just accept it and let it go internally, or is there a kind way to keep communication open without making her feel pressured?

God this post makes me sound like a baby.