Need marriage advice from moms.

Hi everyone.

Preface this with I love my husband, we’ve been together 12 years. we have a 2 year old and a 7 month old.

Lately, things have been feeling harder between us.

He works mon- Friday 5 am- 4 pm.

I’m a nurse, on a 12 month mat leave currently.

I essentially have been the only one to get up in the night with the baby, he’s never done one night shift because he works.

I also get up every morning with both kids and get my toddler to daycare by 8 am.. so I am exhausted.

Recently I’ve been feeling overwhelmed and voiced this so he stated helping by doing one day a week drop off.

I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with house work despite being home on Mat leave. The constant mental load of lunches, cooking, laundry, changing sheets, tidying, packing lunches has gotten to me so I’ve started to ask him to help more, though he makes me “make him a list” because he states he doesn’t know what needs to be done. I feel like it’s just one more thing I have to do, on top of it all.

It’s really stated to make me see him in a different light.

Albeit, when I ask him for help/ tell him what to do, he does it, great of course, but I’m just feeling so disconnected from him.

were other people’s husbands similar and had to be told what to do, have lists made, delegate etc or did they just jump in and do it…