Unreasonable?!?

So he asked me for a divorce last month because he doesn’t love me anymore.

We have 3 kids 4Y 3Y 1Y got married at 18F and 19M

Now 25 and 26 ( we were stupid young kids yes )

He has a business in TN we are all currently living in the same house in FL with my family ( almost 6M on the first )

I agree to relocate again to TN because I understand he is contractually obligated to go back because of his business. I believe it is the best interest of the kids to have their dad actively involved in their life. Despite the fact that it removes my family support. Then 50/50 with the kids when we relocate to TN again. I agreed to do this before school starts because of our 4y old starting this year.

I agreed to let him take the 11k in savings for him to use to move back and buy a vehicle

I’m currently using my dad’s car and I can for as long as I need.

He agreed I could keep the storage unit ( kids stuff TV basic house stuff) I want the kids to stay with me till we move because I have always been the one doing bath bed doctors ext.

Me going to job interviews the last moth has been the first time in 4y he has watched the kids alone. He is not incapable just blames not wanting to be around me now for his lack of participation with the kids. I blame video game 🤷‍♀️ but that’s my fault for not completing about it and just eat that crap.

I’m not asking him for alimony just some child support to help with groceries till we move back. Then no child support I don’t think that’s right if we are spitting the kids 50-50. However we have hit a road block and neither of us are willing to budge we got a life insurance policy together to protect the kids if something happened to both of us. 300k and a pay out of his monthly income for the first year ( 7,000 ) ish

If I pass he gets 300k for the kids

I call the insurance company to see if we could separate the policy. He wanted me to split the policy. I want to leave him as the beneficiary because hello if I pass he will have the kids and I want them to be financially okay. He however wants to make his mother the beneficiary and let her decide how to “ give me the money for the kids “ I said no I said he would keep the cash value of the policy and pull it out of he wanted to when the our youngest turned 18. I offered to pay the policy every month . He said no. The insurance company will not change anything without a divorce decree ( because I could sue them given it’s considered marital property) I offer to do a trust with stipulations on how/ what it could be spent on. I just want to be the trustee so there there is no delay in money and I know the kids are financially safe. No his mother is not a bad person but she doesn’t have a good track record with money. He is so wrapped up in not supporting me that it’s causing problems. I’m not trying to “clean him out “ I’m not going after his retirement alimony or company. I know

that if something happened to him I could not financially sustain with the kids full time without financial help. I currently do not have savings or a vehicle. I just got a job I start next week. I did make one other request I got the kids in daycare but there is a small wait of two weeks. So he is staying till they start daycare. I’m a freaking emotional mess. He knows I need his help with the kids till daycare starts and if I push any further on the life insurance he’s said he will just leave and take me to court so he can take the kids back to TN . I know he can’t legally leave the state without my consent. Im pushing for the life insurance because he is not in good physical health. Also I’m currently in the process of getting my CLD. I was hope that would ease him in the sense that I’m trying to become financially independent as fast as possible ( this job market sucks btw ) so if I’m unreasonably please tell me because at this point i feel freaking crazy. I just don’t want to put both of us into a ton of debt dragging it into court. That doesn’t help the kids. He’s of the mind that he’s doing me a favor because he has an income and career so they will see him as the stable choice and let him take the kids. Especially if I’m not working yet. CDL B is my plan because I did get a job the pay just sucks!!!