I fear he’s still in love with his ex and will leave me for her.

I (F 40s) met my boyfriend (M 28) as a client while we were both in other relationships. My marriage was already failing. I was assured by my client that his relationship was on the downfall as well.

We have been dating for 2 years now. My divorce got finalized a few months in and my boyfriend’s ex moved out of his house.

My boyfriend told me they didn’t talk anymore. But, about a year ago, I learned he has cheated on me with her in various ways (FaceTime sexting, texting to lead her on and sending photos of them as a couple, and even meeting up in person to have sex multiple times). The problem is, he never told me - his ex did. And she was absolutely devastated to learn he was in a relationship with me. He told her he was single.

I forgave him. Although a part of me is terrified my boyfriend will leave me to go back to his ex.

After two full years, my boyfriend’s mom still won’t say more than a few words to me. My boyfriend told his parents he planned to marry his ex. They adored her. I don’t get invited to any of the family gatherings for holidays. He tells me he loves me. But, I know family is important to him and we began our relationship on “rocky morals” according to them. So they don’t want me around.

How do I earn their trust and respect? I feel like I’m competing with his ex and that he only stopped sneaking around to talk to and be with her because I found out.

Our chemistry is amazing. We share so many interests. I don’t want to lose him.