Is Indian marriage structured in a way that benefits men more than women?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and I genuinely want perspectives — especially from married women.

When I look at most Indian marriages around me (urban, educated, “modern”), this is what I see:

Women:

•	Work full-time

•	Contribute financially

•	Often relocate to the husband’s city

•	Adjust to his family’s dynamics

•	Take on most emotional labor

•	Are expected to manage pregnancy + childcare impact on career

Men:

•	Rarely relocate

•	Rarely change surnames

•	Rarely face career slowdown after kids

•	Are praised for “helping” in their own house

And yet, marriage is still marketed to women as a milestone achievement.

Even in progressive circles, I see women doing more invisible work — planning, remembering birthdays, managing relationships, smoothing conflicts.

So I’m genuinely asking:

Is the current structure of Indian marriage still tilted in favor of men?

Or am I just seeing a biased sample?

If you’re happily married — what makes it truly equal?

If you chose not to marry — was this part of your reasoning?

If you disagree — I’d love to understand why.

Not trying to start a gender war. Just trying to understand the system we’re stepping into.