Why do I feel so emotionally fucked up when I learn about a distant friend or family member’s divorce?

Hey. Idk who to talk to about this IRL but I’m 33 and people in my “cohort” have begun getting divorces. (You know how when you turned 25 people started getting engaged? I guess early 30s is when the first wave of divorces hit, because it’s been like 3 in the last 6 months.)

I feel so…emotionally fucked up when I learn someone is getting divorced. I don’t even know why. It’s more than just a “aw, that sucks, divorce is hard and I don’t want hard things for my loved ones” feeling. Its almost like a miniature existential crisis or something.

Like it’s kind of like “oh shit I’m old” and also “wow when those people got married I never imagined theyd get a divorce. I bet they never imagined that either. what the fuck.” Also I go “wow i hope I don’t get divorced. I mean, it doesn’t seem like I will…but all of these people were also happily married at one point too.“

idk who to talk to about this IRL because it seems fucking selfish to be making someone else’s divorce about myself. like if a friend got a bad diagnosis and I just went ”wow your terrible news is making ME have bad emotions!” But basically that’s what’s going on. I will think about it for days and days. or I’ll randomly remember and get this hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach that I can’t shake.

my question is, is this happening with any of you? if so did you ever unpack it and get to the root of why you were ruminating so much about this?