Life as someone who shares a unit with strangers siguro??

Hi! For context, I am currently staying in a shared condo unit. Apat kami and I have been having problems with the 2 of them since start ng contract.

When we moved in, hindi agad kami nakapagset ng meeting to establish rules since we were all busy. That time, understandable na walang naglilinis, maingay sa gabi, and all other stuff.

Honestly, I was excited na makasama yung two freshies na roomies ko. (Yung isa pang kasama namin, calling her the quiet one, after move in na namin nameet) They were really kind nung ilang beses na nagkita kami before moving in. We shared our pet peeves, expectations, mga ayaw namin when it comes to living with someone. Safe to say, nagmatch naman yung mga ayaw ko sa ayaw din nila. I thought magiging okay lahat.

Unfortunately these two freshies were really noisy, especially at night. This isn’t my first time na may makasamang iba sa isang unit but sa experience, parang basic manners naman na ang pagiging tahimik when someone is already sleeping. I don’t think it’s something na dapat pag-usapan pa, but I guess not. May kausap sila sa phone na friends nila until 4 in the morning, laughing really loud. Minsan sumisigaw pa nga. If hindi naman kausap sa phone, sila yung naguusap. Minsan naman, manonood sila ng netflix or tiktok sa devices nila na nakafull blast ang volume. They knew very well na the other 2 (quiet roommate and i) na kasama nila have 7am classes.

I had enough after 3 weeks kaya kinausap ko sila. We agreed on different rules. Bawal maingay 10pm onwards, may naka-assign every week for cleaning, always keep the kitchen clean, pwede ang friends na visitors but no boyfriends, and some other rules.

It was okay for a month or two. Nasusunod naman most of the rules. Then slowly, they were doing things against what we agreed upon.

One of them brought their boyfriend sa unit. Nagmessage lang sa gc namin na iintayin daw siya saglit. Mind you, our condo has a lot of amenities na open for visitors where they can wait. I didn’t respond to that message. Kahit si quiet roomie. Pinatuloy niya pa rin. Fast forward a few weeks later, nagulat nalang ako paggising ko andun yung bf niya ulit. Iintayin lang daw ulit siya. Okay. Andiyan na eh, mapapaalis ko pa ba? They left naman after 30 minutes. I had somewhere to go din that day. Pagbalik ko at around 2 in the afternoon, nagulat ako hindi ko mabuksan agad yung door. Turns out, andun yung bf niya at nagbibihis sila kaya hinarangan yung door. Hindi din umalis yung guy pagdating ko. He was there until 12 midnight.

Nitong pagbalik naman after Christmas break, it was like walang nangyaring usapan ng rules ng 2025. Someone was watching a horror movie at 12am, full blast ang volume, and screaming. On another night, they were talking to each other, laughing. May tumatalon-talon pa. At 3 in the morning.

Exam week namin at that time and I barely get any sleep. I’m from that one college in UST and if aware kayo sa college na yon, you’ll know how much of a hell those exam weeks are. The time na meron ako for sleeping, nawawala pa dahil sa ingay nila. They also don’t follow ang schedule na ng cleaning. The reason? Umuuwi daw kasi sila. Kitchen is barely clean. Tambak pinagkainan nila. There was one time na dumating ako from province na puno talaga yung sink. Kahit yung personal plates and utensils ko and ni quiet roomie, ginamit nila. Naiiwan din yung mga nalalaglag na food sa counter, hindi man lang mapunasan. My other roommate and I had to clean kung ano man yung kalat nila.

We talked to them again last week. We reminded them of kung ano man yung napagusapan multiple times now. And guess what? Okay siya for a few days. Ngayon eto nanaman. Last night, may nakikipagusap nanamn sa phone in the middle of the night. Tawa nanaman nang tawa. Yung isa naman, nagscroll nanamn sa TikTok na malakas ang volume ng phone.

Idk, is it really not normal for people to be quiet pag may natutulog pa? Hindi ba basic human decency nalang yan? Hindi ba dapat kapag may kasama kang iba, you adjust din and you’ll be mindful of those na kasama mo?

Worst part? Someone one of them had the audacity to message the unit owner dahil we weren’t switching beds daw. (Nasa upper bunk yung dalawang maingay) We agreed daw na magswitch halfway through the contract kahit wala namang ganung agreement. Ang sabi pa eh bakit kami lagi nasusunod (the quiet roommate and I) sa rules na nagagree naman sila. When we set rules naman, we ask for their opinion. Madalas nga inaadjust namin based on what they think is okay. We know naman na on shared spaces like this, kailangan everyone adjusts kaya we make sure to ask for their opinion. We also told them na if they have concerns, raise it. Hindi naman namin itetake personally.

I honestly don’t know na what to do. I think nag-adjust naman na din ako enough for them. I mean hindi lang naman noise yung problem ko but yung ibang ginagawa nila, hinahayaan ko na. (Like they would sit on my bed but hindi ko na pinapansin kahit pa there was a time na someone left blood stains on it. I changed my bed sheet before going to school tapos paguwi ko may blood stains na, jusko. I am sure naman that is not from me kasi una, fresh bedsheet yun. As in bagong bili at bagong laba. Pangalawa, wala naman akong sugat and wala naman akong period that time.) Any other rules set, nakakalimutan nila eventually. Short-term memory loss, I guess? Nagtitiis nalang din ako and I’m hoping they won’t renew kasi I really like the place. If magrerenew sila, then I’ll definitely move out.

Ayun lang, super stressed lang talaga ako today dahil exam week nanaman and they were noisy again kagabi. Kung pwede sana lumipat but parents ko kasi nakapirma sa contract and nagissue ng checks so hindi talaga advisable.