I turned down a send today

A sub offered to send more than he could realistically afford.

I won’t pretend it wasn’t tempting — that’s part of the dynamic. But when he mentioned pushing a bill to do it, it didn’t sit right with me.

The rush isn’t worth someone destabilizing their real life. I told him to handle his responsibilities first.

If it only works when someone is overextending themselves, that’s not control — that’s chaos.