AIO got told from mutual friend that i lovebombed someone

trying to keep this anon as possible. i have never experienced something like this and im really lost. i will add just age context im around 25 and hes around 33.

met up with someone ive known a long time after loss of contact. we hit it off and he says not looking for anything serious. i didnt think i was either. were talking daily, all the time, about all kinds of stuff. feeling great. so we go on a date. it goes great. mind you, i flirted a little first when we first met again (i was also drunk as fuck, and he was the person i was most comfortable with in the group.) date goes well, he kisses me first, brings me to "kiss and cuddle", we have sex. having a great time, he holds my hand as he takes me home (i did not reach for his hand first.) he kisses me goodnight. we talk again all the time. flirting. we go on another date. were cuddling, holding hands, staring into each others eyes, we go back to his and have sex again. we end up talking a LOT, naked, laughing and having fun. hold hands when driving back home again. at this point i am falling for him, as i have had really bad relationships. we get along super well, the way hes treating me is all i ever wanted.

i cut it that week, i said im falling and i cant keep going casual unless you dont want to anymore. he says he has feelings for me too, but its intense, and that he feels a good connection but wants his options open and doesnt want to commit. i try to understand, we talk it out. this entire time he is saying he doesnt mind talking about it which is the only reason i was so open. the only two things i can even THINK MIGHT, MAYBE have come across as love bombing is that i A. told him ive always had a gut feeling about him since we met, many years ago and now im worried that fucked me over even if i meant it very honestly. i didnt say it to win him over, or pressure. i truely, TRUELY hadnt felt a connection like this with someone in a very long time besides one of my lifelong friends. i was being completely honest, that i liked him a lot. and or, B. that i was giving him a lot of compliments, wanting to spend time with him, etc. but he was doing the same?? he was asking to hang out too, and i didnt plan the dates. i didnt force him to hang out with me, i never guilted him into it, i never idolized him. i was just honest that i liked him for who he is and that i felt a good connectoin. it was hard to understand why he didnt want to try and take things slow if he also had the connection and feelings but he just didnt want to so we agreed to be friends.

well now time has passed, and i dont really hear from him often. he continues to say he wants to be friends, and that he cares, but he doesnt message me really ever. the entire time i was telling him, i want you to do whats best for you, my emotions are my own to handle, im not here to make you feel any certain way, i cant change your mind and thats okay. i really dont understand how else i could have gone about this, i was very careful with what i said when i could. i dont know what to do anymore, and it seems out of character for him to talk about me like that behind my back and its just really confusing and heartbreaking. AIO?