Is it normal to want your primary partner more after meeting with others?
I 40(m) and my long term partner 35(f) opened up our relationship about 5-6 months ago and things are going great. We had a great stable relationship to begin with and now we navigate through this ENM lifestyle fairly well. Not to say it has not come with its set of challenges but we communicate fairly well. We both have met with several people and each have at least one consistent partner that we meet up with every few weeks.
I’ve noticed recently that whenever I am back from a date with someone or when she returns from a date I desire her more. I am more affectionate with her (I’m already a pretty affectionate guy) and I want to connect with her in any way she allows me to. I call it “reconnecting.” But I’m not sure that’s the right word because we were never disconnected.
Anyway… my question is … is it normal to feel this way? I don’t want her to feel like I’m “reclaiming” her after she is back from a date. I just miss her when one of us is out and I guess I’m still running off that high from the experience I had on my date.
Posted Feb 25, 2026, 5:51 AM UTC