I need some advice (and to rant lol)- no one seems to care

Hi everyone!

Not to toot my own horn, but I have been told that I am very emotionally intelligent and empathetic. I am aware of and take joy in the knowledge that there is so much that I dont know, and genuinely get so excited asking people questions about their experiences and knowledge that they've accumulated. Many people have told me that they feel heard by me, and feel like I am the first person that they've met that genuinely cares what they have to say, and I am happy that I can open that space for them.

But here's the thing-

It rarely/never feels reciprocated. People either dont ask me questions back, not even a "what about you," or talk over me if I do share anything! Past trauma has made me be very sensitive to social cues, and the last thing that I want to do is become the "annoying autistic person that doesnt stop talking about their interests when people cant relate," but there has to be a middle ground between that and sharing my experiences even when people dont prompt me. My therapist says that its probably because people are so used to not being heard that they forget to ask me questions back. My partner and his friend say that I need to be 'more selfish' and demand that space too, but neither of them are autistic and understand the isolation and feeling of being constantly misunderstood that comes with it.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone have any advice for me?