How do I deal with my unfair dads expecting me to do everything

I’m the only girl in a house with three boys/men. I’m 18F my brother is 15M and my dads are 47M and 46M. And I know my brother is the golden child/favorite/can do no wrong. I love him but he’s honestly very messy and kind of disgusting sometimes.

I cook dinner every night for my family because my dads work hard and I love cooking because I want to be a chef when I am older. We have chores that are just keeping our own rooms and bathrooms clean. But I have extra chores I’m expected to clean the kitchen and dining room every day.

It doesn’t feel fair to me because my brother can basically avoid his chores by just keeping his room and bathroom clean. But I always have to clean up after everyone. He leaves dishes in his room for days before bringing them out and when he finally does they’re really hard to scrub. He also goes into the kitchen in the middle of the night to make food and leaves a huge mess wrappers everywhere dirty pans and everything he used just left out.

In the morning when my dads see the mess they get mad at me. I tell them it was my brother but they say because I saw it and should have cleaned it because it’s my chore. And I am honestly so tired I feel like I shouldn’t have to clean up after him when he makes a mess after I’ve already done my part.

Lately I stopped doing the kitchen chore because I don’t think it’s fair that I cook every night and still have to clean up messes that aren’t mine. What should I do about this just stop my chore lately I am just so tired of living in this house

Posted Feb 25, 2026, 8:59 PM UTC

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