I am lost for an MMO

I am a huge fan of mmorpg's but something happened lately, I can't find myself an mmo that would suit me.
I played TERA for a long long time, eve was in the top strongest players and did endgame sweaty content. I always wanted to log in and play. The game is non existent now (I don't care about private servers).
I wish to find again the spark in an mmorpg like I did back then.
The only 2 things an mmo should not have for me to like it are

1. I don't like tab target, it ruins the immersion (I would try it anyway if the game is good tho)
2. If the game is called BDO ( What I mean by that is that I have a life and I can't grind one week to gain 0 progress <3 and the game has [or had] 0 instanced based content, PvP is dope but again too much grind for me to compete)

Please guys I wish to play again a MMORPG, it can be in any theme fantasy, SCI FI, with insect, with cars.... any perspective iso, 3d, fps you name it. All I want is a good mmo, something to feel nice to come home and play. Also, please put a point in why you give in a game and not just the name of it.
Thanks you all see you in comments