my husband is coming out as a trans and i’m agonized and emotionally devastated

i 40 (F) have been with my husband (M52 ) for 27 years. things have been up and down as all marriage are. we share 3 kids an d he had 2 more children before me. things were going fine until last halloween when my daughter wanted to cross dress as one of her favorite cartoon characters.

now in hindsight, I definitely could’ve handled this so much better instead of getting frustrated and my daughter in the heat of the moment I should’ve let her try on the outfits with the caveats and nuances of understanding that she is not a trans. unfortunately my husband overheard this conversation and he quickly got defensive.

I asked him what’s his issue and he told me I shouldn’t be so trans phobic and that i should encourage our daughter to allow herself to get groomed. well this ended up in a three week argument where I had to move out with the kids to my bestie house,

well he went on a huge temper tantrum, and in the heat of the moment his true feelings came out and he cried nasty. he started, bawling his eyes out telling me that he’s been a woman and other crazy delusions. it was so hard to keep in my laughter with the way his cries were echoing across our walls. well now that I know it’s true feelings I moved out again but this time with my mother and we’ve been talking and I’m not too sure whether I want a divorce but things considered I’m devastated. I lost my husband, my lover, my friend to this awful trans virus.

if anyone relates to this story please reach out to me. i’m scared and alone at my moms house and im not sure what to do. should I be worried that my kids have been groomed?