My family screwed up my best friend's family and my hair

I know going to a reddit is probably not the best idea, but I need to talk about what is happening, even when not everything'll be that important.

I'm 23 and tomorrow is last day at my first job. I'm quitting for multiple reasons, but the main reason are money. Of course, I'm looking for a new job, I'l have two interviews this week.

For context, I have colourful hair for almost five years, it was always mix of green, purple and black. But yesterday I add yellow and orange. I look like a Rainbow dash. it's pretty cute. Anyways, my mum never liked my hair and when she saw them she told me I'll not find a better paying job with this and she's pissed ever since. She find another things that I did wrong (of course). But I still don't get it why she's so mad. I wouldn't like to work somewhere where they're not ok with my look. Of course, some places can reject me beacuse of it, but I don't wanna change them. She gaves me this nasty looks and I hate it. I wouldn's say I like my parents (there are reasons for it, but I don't wanna go into details), but I need to live with them, beacuse rents are not cheap and I can't move out with friends, I tried, but they changed their mind for personal reasons. But I think I would rather live with little money and alone then with them.

Well, I texted about this my bestfriend and she got pretty mad at my mum but for different reason. Again, I don't wanna go into details, but bestfriend and her family move from their house and they were trying to sell it. It was horrible situation, they pretty much run from their home one day and never came back because of another family member. They sold the house to a boss of my brother (my parents helped them with finding him), but then they found out some of the property is written in my brothers name. And yesterday my friend found out that this part was given to my mum. They sold it for pretty cheap and they didn't know about my brother or my mum trying to make some money from it. My bestfriend knows it's not my fault, but I feel so quilty. I didn't knew about it. I don't know what to do. I don't think telling my mum is the best option, it'll not change anything. I never fight with my mum, usually I just stay silent and that's pretty much it. I'm scared of her. I would love to move out, in secret, but at the same time, I don't think that's the best idea. My brother gave me a choice to live in his apartment at the end of the year, beacuse he'll be movng out to his own, I agreed first, but I don't wanna be under their pressure. I hope it makes sense. I cried at my job today beacuse of this, I feel so anxious. I love my bestfriend, we knew each other for fifteen years and my family screw her and her family. I'm scared when my mum is gonna yell at me. I don't know what to do with them. How to talk to them, how to leave. Of course, I need to find a job first, but I know all this is gonna be so hard.

I know hair part is not really important. but it's just another reminder, they like me, but not the real me, only this image of me. When I show them the real me (for example, colourful hair) they always hate it. Like why.

Idk how to end this, thank you for listening at least and sorry for my grammar.