People telling me to just get over my feelings makes me feel even more hopeless

I was talking to an fa person here on reddit and I assumed we could understand each other, he has low self esteem and I've never told him he should just try harder or just be confident because I understand his pain is real.

But when I mentioned that it hurts me when non FAW laugh at me due to my inexperience with men, he told me just don't listen, they'd criticize something else anyway. Instead of acknowledging that being mocked hurts.

Also being labeled as ugly and for not having romantic things is a very specific thing and isn't the same as some random criticism that someone could say.

It's very sad that people do not understand me. It makes me feel even more hopeless.