If he really liked me, wouldn’t he wait until I’m comfortable?

I need advice :( I keep wondering: if a guy genuinely cares about you and sees potential, would he be okay moving at your pace? Or am I expecting too much?

I really, really like this guy. We talked long-distance for 9 months, and at the beginning of this year he moved to my city for a job. Since then, we’ve been going on weekly dates.

Lately, our dates usually end at his apartment, and he always wants me to sleep over. I’ve held my ground and haven’t been intimate.

The thing is, I do want to be intimate - but only in an exclusive, committed relationship where I feel emotionally safe. We haven’t defined anything or agreed to be exclusive, and that makes me uneasy.

A few days ago, I saw a woman’s hair in his bathroom sink. That really hurt. It made me realize we’re probably not on the same page. Maybe I’m assuming, but it clearly suggests another girl has been over.

Ironically, that same day he said he “wants to be in a relationship,” but he didn’t actually ask me to be his girlfriend or define us. Part of me wonders if he’s just saying that because he wants sex.

Most of our dates are late at night and end up at his place. I understand intimacy is important, but I can’t move forward physically when I feel unsure about where I stand.

I’m debating whether to tell him I need exclusivity and emotional safety before intimacy — or just end things. I feel like if he really liked me, he’d be willing to wait.