I feel stuck (26, LL)

I'm a 26 year in a relationship of 4 years with my girlfriend 25(LL).

Everything was great in the relationship normal levels of communication, affection, and a mid intimacy but I don't know when it happened but down the road of our relationship something crashed I don't feel she likes me anymore, I don't feel desired, I feel hated. Like I'm never enough no matter what I do, No matter how much I try, how much I keep going the extra mile I feel she ends up taking more on simple thing I wash the dishes almost daily even thought we agreed on a mid point and yet when supposedly is her turn of it she asks me to do it and when I deny because sometimes I don't feel with energy to keep working at home she explodes at me saying she does so much more and that why I can do such a simple thing for her I end up doing it because I feel like an asshole.

The sexual life is gone the only good year I had with her was the first one not daily but maybe monthly and it was amazing whenever she asked or felt like I would be down for it because it mattered to me what she needed, but later down the line something changed she doesn't even ask for anything anymore whenever I ask I get an excuse like "My head hurts" and I don't pry more because I try to respect her to love her. But does she love me? does she care the same way I did? or something died?

I have an horrible temper I explode so easily with anyone except her I don't want to hurt her feelings, I don't want to be that type of person but recently I can't handle it anymore I just want to scream throw dishes to the wall to see if she can notice how I feel or get a rejection at least something to escape this

One day I came from work it was late for the time I go to sleep it was around 10 pm, definetly cold outside I was so hungry because I didn't had anything through the day just an egg from the breakfast I had like at 9 am? maybe 8 am and when I open the door home I expected at least a meal in the table or in the freezer but nothing I went to the bedroom just to find her asleep and a cup of In-N-Out soda with a sticky note saying "For you" I didn't even felt angry I felt depressed I feel like something was wrong that what i do for her is just like what I'm supposed to and I can help myself but ask

When will this be about what I need?
What I want?
Or at least what she can do

(Sorry for the mistakes in the text I never had perfect writing english)