Bf keeps gaming and i'm getting tired of it.
Hello, so me and my boyfriend (F19 & M19) have been together for a little over two years now. And just for some context, everything has been good except for lately—we've been getting into arguments and have been on edge lately, but we are trying to slowly pick ourselves back up.
I play my fair share of games as well, I used to play COD, pubg, GTA, and some games I am currently enjoying stardew. But I'm pretty bad at games, so when I do try to learn and game with my bf to show interest in his hobbies and play his favorite games with him, it just becomes a competition and i always lose lmao. Lately, he's been always at the computer shop, gaming away.
When we are together, he talks about how he wants to play games, and just talks to his friends about when they could play together again. But then he's always complaining how he has no savings, and that since we're graduating soon, we've been drowning in miscellaneous fees for school, and he has been having trouble paying them—even tho I am the one who has been pleading and teaching him how to save up—and he says he will do it everytime, but always ends up spending it away. He has nothing to spend on dates and important stuff but when it comes to gaming, he suddenly has all the money in the world to spend it on. I'm just getting so annoyed, he also always plays with our friends, and they're always together, and I've just been feeling so left out because even if I do tag along, I don't even know how to play it in the first place. So yeah :") i have no idea what to do here, I'm not against gaming in any way, but It just icks me when I've told him all about what I've been feeling before and he still continues to does it. When he games, he doesn't text me, he doesn't even update me, he just games.
I don't wanna seem like i'm overreacting but I obviously just wanna spend time with him, but his priorities are obviously and always different.
Tldr: are my feelings towards my boyfriend gaming valid?
Posted Feb 26, 2026, 8:11 AM UTC