My partner (25F) has blindsided my (25M) problem

So this problem I have may sound quite simple or irrelevant to the bigger picture but I have had issues opening up to people for soo long that I still struggle! But today I

But the bullet and had tried to express that something didn’t feel right and that my efforts just weren’t seen or appreciated… but Instead of addressing that as my issue she proceeds to say that it’s because I’m not touching her or hugging her but me being a shy anxious guy stuff like that is incredibly hard when I’m in any emotional state. I guess what I’m asking is how do I go about getting back to my issue without actually being dismissive myself and also being able to explain that the only reason she felt that way is because I wasn’t heard the way I should all without it blowing out of proportion and ending in arguments?😅 I have always struggled to communicate what I’m saying in my head because to me it always sounds fine and always seems to be chilled but it never ends well so I’m hoping someone has had a similar situation that they managed to fix well