AITAH Hb is a liar.

Found out Hb has been lying about paying bills in my name on time for YEARS after promising he would make sure they are paid on time. Told him lying and being weird with his phone (keeping it on silent and face down and taking it to the bathroom with him) are dealbreakers (I have insecurities with phones). He assured me nothing weird going on with the phone. We get married.

Fast forward we have been having some arguments and I have been feeling like he is hiding something, I find out he only ever paid 2 bills on time after that first argument. I was still feeling weird and this morning I checked his email.. I feel bad for doing it but with him lying about the bills I still felt like I was missing something. Oh boy I got myself into it. I found a bunch of emails from JFF and was shocked he would have something like that. He always mocked only fans and said he didn’t really watch prn so I never thought he would have one. I called him out on it over the phone asking him what it was and he outright lied to me and told me he didn’t know what that was and that it was spam. I would also like to mention I have told him countless times he can be into whatever he wants as long as he isn’t hiding shit from me, I’m a pretty open person and I don’t like to judge people. Anyways he lied his ass off until he got home and then told me he used to have one but doesn’t anymore and that he was into a weird kink. I don’t care about the kink, I care about the lying part and the hiding it part and the money part. He started subscribing and paying for these videos and pictures of women to satisfy his kink while he would go to the bathroom with me at home. What’s worse is that he started this 6 years into our relationship and most of the time while we were engaged and lasted up until 2 months before we were married. On top of that I have basically had to pay for our whole wedding while he was paying for videos of other women and I’m STILL paying it off and he said he couldn’t pay our bills but he’s paying them? He is sleeping in my office. I told him his phone sound had to be on at all times. There can be no secrets anymore from him, full 200% transparency. AITAH because I care this much about these things? I know alot of people watch prn but that’s not the part that I care about it’s more the lying and instead of helping me he spent money on that. I feel absolutely devastated and I’m not sure how to even begin moving past this.