Race kinks in interracial relationships?

am i okay? im a black male and ive at a young age grew up with white female teachers and have always had good experiences with white women being encouragers and good influences in my life from school to counseling to church and other areas of my life. recently i met this white girl and i love her (a part from being infatuated she is just soo cool and calming to be around as a person and friend)

ive always balanced this desire to have a white women as a S.O. and i noticed this a few times that she said out of the blue that she didnt mind if i called her a cracker (in a non-offensive way ofc) and it shocked me that she would even say that bc im the same way...i want the name calling and racial play to be "mutual" if u get what im saying........

is this common for white women in interracial relationships??

tldr...is it common for interracial relationships juggle race aspects in relationships like snow bunny, and its opposite equivelents??