Post TFMR wishing I had miscarried

I feel like I don’t know how to explain this without coming across as crass. After our TFMR for full T18 at 17 weeks, I started to share with friends and family what had been going on. There’s been a lot of support, but one of the things that has ended up hurting is when my friends have been likening their early miscarriages (chemical pregnancies included) with being forced to terminate a very wanted pregnancy in the second trimester. I understand these are all wanted children and I’m probably being sensitive, and I don’t wish any of this on anyone, but I would have rather miscarried myself than have to travel two states away while feeling her kick in my belly. Everything is terrible but trying to commiserate without having gone through the same thing is making me feel worse. Can anyone relate or am I just being sensitive, having literally only come home yesterday?