what’s with the hate with towns?

I don’t think some of you realize that what you actually want is a town or mid sized cities that feel like a big towns.

You say you want community. You say you want nature. You say you want slower paced. You say you want to actually know your neighbors. You say you want charm. You say you want something that doesn’t feel overly optimized, overly curated, over noisy, suburbia, overly corporate.

That’s town energy. Yet some will say they want places like San Francisco? where in SF??

I understand wanting access to big city amenities. Not saying you have to live in the middle of nowhere. Being thirty minutes outside of a metro area is different than being isolated. But what you’re describing most of the time is not a city. It’s a town near a city or mid sized city that feels like a town.

what I have noticed is mention of wanting certain qualities. Then someone recommends a place and some will reject because it’s a town. But that’s literally what you want!

I feel there is a revival happening because people are tired of urban & suburban sprawl and tired of hyper optimized city living. Unless you genuinely want city energy, and you’ll know if you do. People who truly love cities are very clear and intentional about it. (There’s coherence)

But if you’re remote and finances aren’t the issue, and you keep describing nature, quiet, character, community, slower rhythm, you’re looking mostly for towns. There are so many hidden gems that are towns in many states that are quite functional.

I’m interested in places like El Paso. I’m interested in Tucson. West Virginia has some beautiful towns.

New Orleans. Coachella valley. The Carolinas. A lot of these places are still under the radar. (or some was) They’re not always the most recommended because they’re not perfect.

And that’s kind of the point. These places attract certain people & maybe that’s the disconnect for some.

I like Tucson. I’m not going to pretend it has perfect infrastructure or economy. It doesn’t. It’s also gritty. But what attracts me isn’t perfection. It’s that it doesn’t feel optimized. It feels old Americana. There’s dinners. It feels grounded. It feels rooted and soulful. There’s nature. There’s texture.

Same with El Paso. Albuquerque

All I’m saying is some of you need to be honest with yourselves. You keep describing everything that exists in a town, but you’re expecting to find it inside a city. And that mismatch is why you feel unsatisfied in your quest, and of course research and visit. Just be open minded is all!

also, look into astrocartography if you haven’t. best of luck!