Lifelong side wants to top

So I'm rapidly approaching 40, and have never fucked.

Not for lack of trying, just unlucky and not too big on hooking up. I mean, I was a virgin til near 30 cuz of a religious upbringing, and have not been lucky to meet too many guys or just plain old anxiety as an inteovert.

That's not to say I'm a virgin, still have done plenty of side stuff with plenty of guys. Hell I've prob had more dicks in my mouth than half the guys I chat with.

But apparently, "never fucked" is pretty much just as "bad" as being a virgin...

And being older, some even say "how?" Like, sex is supposed to be this oh so easy simple thing everyone just gets on demand at any given moment, LMAO

I dunno. Am I the weird one here? Is it still virginity if you haven't specifically done one sexual act? Should I even bother telling these entitled jerks my personal sex history?