My Former Church Justifying Their Behavior Or Actions

I formerly attended a GARBC/IFB Baptist church. I left the church due to experiencing control, manipulation, emotional and spiritual abuse. My former church is justifying their behavior and actions by telling me that they love and care about me and my soul despite hearing hurtful things. They only want the best for me. I'm unsure if they're being genuine or sincere or trying to get me to go back to that specific church. I have no idea why I miss them after the shit I experienced.