I’m starting to resent my boyfriend’s friends

Problem/Goal: I’ve somehow convinced myself that they have something against me bc of their behavior when I’m not around, and in return I’m slowly starting to despise them

Context: My bf used to have feelings for his friend. This was roughly 7 years ago. 3 years na kami. He confessed to her pero allegedly, she didn’t reciprocate.

I have no doubts na nakapagmove on na bf ko. He’s been nothing but reassuring. At first nabother ako na they still kept in touch (they’re all in the same friend group) pero when I got the chance to meet all of them na in person, my uneasiness subsided. I found myself genuinely starting to enjoy their company—beyond the courtesy of getting along wt them just bc they’re my partner’s friends. I thought they were all a pleasant bunch, including the girl he used to have a crush on.

Until my bf told me na yung bff ng girl (who is also in the same friend grp) has a habit of teasing them pa din. I remember the first time I met all of them, yung ginawang conversation starter nya wt me was “Huy, diba ang ganda ganda ni [insert name ni girl]?” Tapos another instance was nung hinahatid nya yung bf ko tsaka yung girl (they all came from a group hangout) sabi ba naman nya sa bf ko “Uy, mag-goodnight ka na sa [insert the pet name he uses with me] mo” pero she was referring to the girl kasi siya yung iddrop off that time.

Last straw was when she brought it up again mid-conversation na naman, unprompted. Syempre I wasn’t around. They were all looking back at highschool pictures, tapos she suddenly goes “Uy diba eto yung time na nagconfess [insert my bf’s name] kay [girl]” tapos my bf just kept quiet daw and wasn’t laughing with the rest of them, and tried shutting it down by saying “Ano ba, ang tagal na nun”. Tapos their friends kept teasing them pa din, and even the girl was giggling.

Another weird instance was nung kasama ko naman silang lahat sa inuman, I heard one of their friends say in passing “wala eh, mahilig kasi si [girl] sa mga moreno na taken na”— which is such a bizarre thing to say bc my bf is the ONLY moreno in that friend group.

Previous Attempts: My bf confronted na yung friend who likes to initiate most of the teasing, and told her na he found it disrespectful kasi nameet ko na sila countless times and got along with them well naman. She apologized naman and til now, thankfully, wala naman naulit. They don’t know that I know bc I didn’t want them to think na ako tong nag-utos kay bf na iconfront sila, even though it was purely my bf’s initiative naman.

Ngayon I’m having a hard time rewiring my brain na they don’t have any malicious intent against me, and that it was just a a case of tasteless humor on their end. Should I still attempt to hang out with them to see how it goes? Di ko kasi mabura yung disrespect na naramdaman ko.