What would you do? 🐠

Using a fish 🐠 as an example for what I experience regularly with my husband and is constantly draining me.

You tell your husband, you want a fish.

Suddenly he acts as if he HAS to immediately travel to the middle of the ocean and get you a fish.

You tell him it’s ok, you can figure out getting a fish yourself somehow, it’s just a little harder for you than it is for others to do. If it’s causing him a lot of trouble, he doesn’t have to get you a fish.

But he won’t listen, he keeps emphasising “But you want the fish don’t you?”

So you just accept defeat and let him go get the fish if he wants to help you that badly.

So he travels to get the fish. He gets your fish. He brings it back. The problem is, he spends the whole time complaining. Getting the fish is so annoying, I’m so tired but getting you this fish, life would be so much easier if I didn’t have to get you this fish, everyone can see I’m a slave getting your fish etc.

So the next time you want a fish, you don’t tell him. You go get a fish by yourself, but with a bit of a struggle.

He comes back and sees you with a fish.

Now he’s telling you “You’re so stupid, why didn’t you tell me you wanted a fish?? I could have gotten it for you. Next time tell me you want a fish.”

So what are you supposed to do? It’s annoying to him if you get the fish by yourself, but also annoying to him if you ask him to help.