AITAH for standing in a puddle and needing to pee

Two things really because I 32f feel like I'm losing my mind. yesterday my partner 30f and I were out shopping and having a good day. we left the shop and I walked into a small puddle. By small it was like really shallow the the point it didn't really do much to my shoe.

My partner said that I should have know it was there. She said you are not 4 you are 32 years old and should know better and that I have no thought about it ruining her car.

She made an absolute scene , carrying on into the next shop.

it was loud and to the point where people behind me were commenting, I felt super embarrassed and was quiet for the next hour. We were not going to the car right away as we had 4 more shops to go into. It was a genuine accident and I didn't mean to step into it on purpose. I was just listening to her talk and stepped into it.

I was also in a big rush today to get to the doctors and I ran upstairs to change quickly. I needed to pee but I held it because it made sense in my head to just get changed first and go on the way out..I ran downstairs and the toilet was in use. because my brain thought I was about to go, I had that insta pee moment and I really really had to go.

So I used the upstairs toilet she doesn't like me to use as she prefers I use the one in the utility. She bleached yesterday and she had a fit at me because I used it before she finished cleaning it. she said why can't I be an adult and hold it. what do I do at work etc. to the point where she told me to fuck off.So I got my keys and went to my appointment.

I feel really depressed at the moment because I seem to be making so many mistakes all the time and none are on purpose. I keep trying to do everything right and it's all going wrong. I'm paranoid that I'm being an asshole and being unaware of it. it's really playing on my mind and it's keeping me up all the time.