I think I have a kink for intimacy.

Or perhaps that’s not a thing.

But I know beyond anything- beyond any urge to cum, beyond some instinct for conquest-

I crave closeness.

I think I mostly mean that emotionally and spiritually. I’m obviously aware that most of human intimacy is not sexual.

But when it comes to sex, I find that when I’m leading, when I am using the power of my frame to gently suggest how our bodies should fit together, I find myself often settling into lotus as a baseline.

I think the primary reason is the eye contact. That’s really everything to me. But also the breath work. It’s so tender to be able find our rhythm together. 

It’s a real “Swiss army knife” of a position, isn’t it? I like that neither of us is pinned down or put in a passive position. It allows for a free exchange of energy and ideas. 

Sometimes it’s so so deliciously slow and deep. 

Sometimes my rough man hands grip your hips and guide you down onto me at the pace I crave.

Sometimes you take more control and let your hips swim over me as we make out.

I should also mention I’m obsessed with how deep it allows us into you. I understand physiologically there is no moment where I actually get any bigger or you get any deeper than our bodies actually are. But there’s something about lotus, about that moment where you tip your hips slightly forward into me and we both feel the raw power and vulnerability of being so deep together that we can’t do anything but look into each others eyes and cling to each others bodies.

Oh and a last thought that I’ll add…

When we cum.

Together. 

In the lotus position…

I know it’s not something we can count on super often- it’s more of a shooting star moment- but when it happens and we do melt and clench and erupt and supernova together, it is about the most intense and ecstatic level of human connection that I’ve ever felt.

The Intimacy of Lotus (Ramble)