Is this salvageable or am I cooked?

It's a long story, but I'll try my best to get to the point.

I matched with this girl and we had insane chemistry over text, sending long messages back and forth.In Valentine's day, I drove 2 hours to see her, I picked her up and we got coffee, and then we go back to her place to play a videogame. We kissed at the end of the date, hugged, and said we'd miss each other.

My work schedule is really hectic, so it's not easy to her often. We kept texting, and we both agreed to prioritize each other and stop texting others on dating apps. She's calling me her "other half" "love" and sending me hearts. We got to the topic of sex of course, so we're both escalating really fast. I booked a hotel room cause why not? Plus I don't like driving long distances, it's exhausting, so I just wanted a place to rest for the night and spend time with her.

The 2nd date starts a week later. We get coffee. She pulls out her phone to look at reddit which I thought was weird. I pull mine out to scroll along with her. We were waiting for her brother to leave for work so we can go back to her place and finish the game we started last time. We go back to her place, finish the game, it was great, then we drive over to go play mini golf.

She spent a long time in the bathroom when we got there. I don't know if she had to take a dump or if something else was going on, but it worried me because the vibes felt off compared to last time. She wasn't as talkative or maybe we texted too much and ran out of things to say??

Golfing went fine, i don't really know what to talk about when golfing and when its so windy that its hard to hear. She says she has a migraine and then we go into the arcade for a bit. We played an air hockey game that kinda dragged on and at some point I performatively tried to fumble and lose so we could move on but we tied. She went to the bathroom again for a while.

So we were driving to go get some food, and then she asks me if I could get a refund on the hotel which I couldn't. She said we're moving too fast which is fair. My mood dropped and I got all mopey and sulky because I just wanted to spend time with her even if we didn't have intimacy later. She's like "I hope I didn't ruin the 2nd date". We got food, I was too sad to talk much, but I wanted to at least be nice to her and pay for her food.

So I take her home, and the date ended awkwardly and I left without any affection. The entire mood was ruined. I texted her and she said she didnt like the way the date ended and didnt know if she wanted a date in the morning since I was staying in the hotel overnight. I apologize for everything, and finally she tells me that I gave her the ick because of my eyes and the way that I talk reminds her of her ex (who's a woman and I'm a guy), and that she tried to ignore it before. She also told me that I got attached too quickly (even though she was sending me lovey dovey stuff) and that she doesn't want her words to have weight. We stop texting for a week.

A week later I reach out again cause I missed her and she wished me a happy birthday, and I told her that I wasnt expecting romance, but I just enjoyed her company. She's been ghosting me for 4 days which is unusual for her to not reply quickly.

I'm just so sad. I really liked her. I know the obvious answer is to move on. I haven't double texted because I don't want to be clingy or more desperate than I already come off. She also has a lot of trauma and struggles with anxiety, depression, and some other stuff. What do you think?

tl;dr: 1st date was great, 2nd date meh because I remind her of her attached ex, we don't talk until a week later and she says she still wants to be friends. She abruptly ghosts for 4 days so far. I'm giving her space, hoping she'll reach out again