Mother-in-law and boundaries

Let’s be honest. It is hard to set boundaries with people, but it is especially hard to set and maintain boundaries with mother-in-laws. For years I’ve been polite and respectful as I try to maintain and keep boundaries that protect my peace, my home, and my life. Usually, I get passive verbal attacks, apologies due to “forgetfulness”, or a complete disregard of the boundary clearly communicated.

I’ve always wanted to maintain this relationship and keep the peace and be respectful. I’ve always hoped if I communicate enough I’ll be respected. But I’ve come to learn that to her, I live in HER world. Today that all ended.

When she was trying to push a boundary after I politely and clearly said no, I stood up for myself. I told her, she had raised her son to love women who are strong, decisive, vocal, and stubborn. She raised him to love women who know what they want and what they do not want. I told her,”I am that woman”.

This silenced her and she had nothing to say. She took her bag and left.

I know the battle of boundaries with my mother-in-law have not ended. But today I was courageous and my honest self. And she saw that. From today onward, she knows who she is talking to and knows I will not back down and compromise myself. I live in my own world.