Have you ever had a successful relationship with someone who wasn't, or didn't start out as, an LO? What was it like?

I'm curious about other people's experiences.

"Successful" is obviously a subjective criterion, but I would consider a relationship successful enough if it lasted at least a year, you feel you genuinely grew to love your partner, and it ended (if it did) for reasons other than a failure to develop attraction or interest on your part.

Why did you get together if you were not limerent? Did you eventually develop limerence for them, and, if so, how long did it last? If not, how did you know you were in love with them and in what ways did it feel different? Have you experienced limerence for someone else while in the relationship? If you broke up or divorced (why?), did you feel it hurt more or less than breaking up or being rejected by an LO?

>> What follows is my own experience, you can skip this part if you just want to answer the question:

Personally, my entire experience of romantic attraction has been limerence. I have had LEs of varying durations and levels of intensity, but I absolutely cannot conceive of what romantic interest without limerence would look like. I know that people enter relationships for reasons other than love, such as money, status, social pressure or the fear of being alone, and those motivations I can understand, even if that's not something I believe I could do, outside of the direst and most desperate of circumstances. Those relationships I see as fundamentally fake, though; romance without limerence, at least in the early stages, feels alien to me. Even if someone treats me well, has things in common with me and "checks the boxes" they should from a societal perspective, without limerence, I experience no physical attraction or desire for intimate companionship, and my feelings can't progress beyond a platonic friendship, even if I really try to give them a chance and take things further; I just can't get into it, and physical contact with non-LOs feels mechanical and uncomfortable.