Life I guess

Ok but like why is it so hard to find fellow neurodivergent friends?Like I live in middle of nowhere town with at most 2 neurodivergent people who are both self loathing and bully me for being openly neurodivergent,online I don't know how to start convos and just info dump but then some people find it strange even if they're neurodivergent which I get it social conditioning,or the bane of my existence in social situations,small talk,like I wish we could have a neurodivergent tinder but for friends only where you can put your interests up,no small talk,just info dump and see if you can exist together happily and follow almost NO social rules like looking someone in the eye even if the other is someone who stares into your soul,or vice versa and just talk out problems when we think someone isn't doing something and why they are doing something instead of silently being miffed