Moving out of home for independence but dealing with guilt
I’ve (25F) lived away from home for over two years now but it was quite on and off, my last job was WFH so I would chill at either place - at my parents’s or my own rented studio.
My new job is strictly WFO and 6 days a week too, so I’m planning on moving closer to my workplace and staying there whole week, coming over on the weekend or whenever else I can.
This wasn’t an issue in the past when my sibling was here, and now they’re not and have moved elsewhere. My parents are still working and travel to work 5 days a week, almost 1.5 hrs each way. They expect me to do the same but it’s less about the travel and more about my hard found independence which I don’t want to lose.
Today has been wild and my mother has screamed yelled cried and did everything to have me move back.
I am obviously devastated and my heart weeps in the sene that I obviously want to spend more time with them too, but I am really looking forward to this new journey and having my own place still. This is the only way I get to spend any meaningful time with my partner too (they are unaware of My relationship, of course lol
How do I deal with this guilt of leaving them - since my mother’s main concerned is feeling lonely without me and worrying about me able to cook or arrange my food?
I am truly torn between wanting to live my own life and pleasing my mother.
Additionally, the relationship I have with my mother right now is the best I’ve ever had since I was probably born lol.
Posted Mar 4, 2026, 7:16 AM UTC