Moving out of home for independence but dealing with guilt

Advice/Help

I’ve (25F) lived away from home for over two years now but it was quite on and off, my last job was WFH so I would chill at either place - at my parents’s or my own rented studio.

My new job is strictly WFO and 6 days a week too, so I’m planning on moving closer to my workplace and staying there whole week, coming over on the weekend or whenever else I can.

This wasn’t an issue in the past when my sibling was here, and now they’re not and have moved elsewhere. My parents are still working and travel to work 5 days a week, almost 1.5 hrs each way. They expect me to do the same but it’s less about the travel and more about my hard found independence which I don’t want to lose.

Today has been wild and my mother has screamed yelled cried and did everything to have me move back.

I am obviously devastated and my heart weeps in the sene that I obviously want to spend more time with them too, but I am really looking forward to this new journey and having my own place still. This is the only way I get to spend any meaningful time with my partner too (they are unaware of My relationship, of course lol

How do I deal with this guilt of leaving them - since my mother’s main concerned is feeling lonely without me and worrying about me able to cook or arrange my food?

I am truly torn between wanting to live my own life and pleasing my mother.

Additionally, the relationship I have with my mother right now is the best I’ve ever had since I was probably born lol.

Posted Mar 4, 2026, 7:16 AM UTC

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