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I have been planning on making this post for a while even when I was still a teen I have just been depressed and busy.

I just turn 20 as of recently so I wanted to drop some life advice as someone who has been through it all before they was even an adult.

I was abused all my childhood, groomed my teen years, manipulated, bullied yk all that fun stuff.

I have had my fair share of suicidal thoughts (and attempts), and I think I may be able to say a few things that may be helpful to anyone who may be in a similar situation.

For starters,

your childhood doesn’t end at 18.

“It’s the age of adulthood” You still a teen, you just can vote now. When I turned 18 I cried my eyes out and then when 20 hit I was like what the fuck was that. Your frontal lobe doesn’t even develop til 25, the 18 rule was just made so they could get more soldiers for war.

A little funfact: before the 1970’s the voting age was 21, and adulthood was considered 21.

anyways

with that being said lets move on to my next point:

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There is no reason a 32yo man should want to be friends with you. Y’all have nothing in common, you aren’t mature for your age, he is just a weirdo.

Same goes for older women, women can be predators too, trust me I found this out the hard way.

Even if you 18-20, theres no reason for someone that much older than you to want to talk to you.

Thats called a ✨creep✨ 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

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another thing I wish someone told me, don’t worry about your weight. I wasted most of my childhood doing that, and when I turned 17 I randomly started dropping weight like crazy because your body is still developing. I look so much different than 4 years ago.

Cant say the same about acne, I never got it in my early years and then from 18-now it hit me like a freight train 😭😭 (dealing with a breakout rn i hate this)

If you are having mental health issues please seek help, Im not even just talking about suicidal thoughts either, I mean ANYTHING.

I have had traits of ocd all my life and kept my mouth shut, last year it once again hit me like a freight train (a running theme in this you will see) and I spent my last teen year hiding in my room mostly because I was convinced something bad would happen to me.

0/10 do not recommend

If i had gotten help way eariler I could’ve dodged that whole era of my life 🙄

Suicide is a whole other ballpark, I had multiple attempts last year and the years before, I honestly cant say much on this because I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t still struggling but you aren’t alone, and it genuinely isn’t the answer.

getting bullied? fight the bitch

somebody posting mean stuff online? congrats they committed a crime and you can now get them in legal trouble

you feel like you aren’t going anywhere in life? guess what, nobody does, life has its ups and downs and it constantly changes, idk if I like that part either but its inevitable, might as well stay for the ride or however the saying goes

family problems? I get it, but think of that feeling of when you can move out and cut them off from your life, thats what someone told me when i opened up and thats what i keep telling myself, the text Ill send everyone explaining what they did to me, how they will never have anything to do with me again, and how they can rot in hell.

Believe it or not every problem has a solution, no matter how big the problem is.

You can make it. If I did you can. I promise you.

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