How does one find their partner?

Hi aku F23, jujur terakhir pacaran kayak SMA so like 6-ish years ago? dan itupun aku ga anggap "relationship" karena masih sama2 bocil & it was toxic anyways.

Selama kuliah jg gapernah pacaran, entah kenapa ngga pernah ada yg cocok untuk jd pasangan romantically. I have good relationships with my guy friends, tp ntah blm ada yang deketin. i asked my friend and she said it's because sometimes I'm too independent and gak "approachable" in a romantic way (tbh still trying to figure out what this means). sampe skrg udh lulus and mau masuk kerja, I'm feeling really lonely. I yearn to build a family with someone I love, I would love to spend my youth exploring things with someone I love, ngeliat temen2 jg pada punya pasangan, I want that tapi making sini making ngerasa susah dapet pasangan... especiallyg yg sesuai criteria (I simply like a guy who is more mature than me emotionally & financially, and nyambung diajak ngobrol. physically, I just like someone yg rapih, apik, suka olahraga, etc. someone like me I guess?....is this too much to ask?)

rn I feel unworthy (im not trying to be a pick me). I feel like aku decently well looking, I'm smart, I'm good at conversations, career wise aku sangatt bagus, personality wise aku fun aja (jgn anggep aku geer pls) but why is this that no guy has ever tried to pursue me romantically? is it my aura? lack of attractiveness? terlalu independent? ok jujur I don't hang out with too many ppl that often, aku tipe yg hangout sm temen2 terdekat & on occasions with friends yg ga terlalu dekat. apakah ini berpengaruh?

Give me advice, anything so I can believe that the right love will eventually reach me and I'll reach him