Am I being shallow? 25F in the AM process

25F, parents have got me into the AM process.

I’ve been getting a few proposals, and so far I’ve noticed that many of them are quite…short.

I myself am short at 155cm (5’1”) so it’s kind of rich for me to complain about short guys at 5’3” - 5’5”. Besides I know personality is important than height. Despite all this, I still don’t feel like I could forgive the height.

For context, men in my family are quite tall. My father is about 170cm+ so he’s around 5’9”. (I’m an only child) My male cousins are all 5’10” - 6”. I’m like an oddity in my family that I ended up as short as 5’1”. My only cousin sister is tall at 5’7” or 5’8”. I’m an odd one out being as short as I am, everyone expected me to also be closer in height to my dad though my mom is short.

I find it off-putting that the matches I get are even shorter than my father, and I don’t understand why that is such an issue for me. I feel shallow for it. When I was dating around, I always was with/was attracted to guys as tall as my dad at the minimum, and barely met short people (let alone felt romantic attraction towards them). My parents keep telling me that they just want the guy to be slightly taller than me and I shouldn’t be focused on his height if his personality is golden.

But above all else, I don’t understand why it is a problem for me. The guys I get are taller than me, but only by a few centimetres at most. I myself feel too short for some things and as a kid I’ve always said I’d like a guy taller than me so life would be easier lmao. I don’t know what about it is being an issue, it’s the fact that I’m a short girl in a tall family so I’m used to men being incredibly tall, or I’m insecure about being short, or I’m being really shallow and unfair towards short men.

With the men I’ve been with before, I enjoyed being a short and sweet one. My mom and I are the same height so I basically grew up with a tall guy/short girl dynamic shown to me and I guess subconsciously I do want it for myself as part of an “ideal” relationship. When I talked to my parents about it, they told me not to judge them based on height, and them being slightly taller than me is enough for the dynamic. They also said I shouldn’t filter people based on height bc there’s a chance that taller people may not want me either, and they might be right. Still, for some reason, I feel like I’m compromising by considering short guys and I just don’t understand why I feel strongly about this.

Ladies, what do you think? It’s true that I’m being quite shallow here, but I just don’t understand why I feel so strongly about it, and I don’t know how to deal with it. I feel like in the AM process I’m mostly gonna get short guys like this because of my height and I feel like it’s unfair for them to be dealing with someone who doesn’t like something they can’t change easily. I don’t know what to do about this train of thought. Please help.