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(25F) met a guy (25M) online through a Telegram bot and we’ve been talking for around 1.8 years, but we have never met in person because of long distance. However, both of us have talked about meeting someday.

When we first started talking, he was going through a breakup from a 4-year relationship. He was still emotionally attached to his ex at that time and was even trying to fix things with her. Later she moved to London in September 2024, and he said that situation left him feeling very betrayed and broken.

From April to October 2024, we talked a lot and became very close. During that time our conversations also became sexually intimate (sexting).

After that we had about 2.5 months of no contact, but in January we started talking again. During this whole year we’ve had many arguments, but somehow we still stay in contact.

He often says that the memories of his past relationship still haunt him, and because of that he struggles with trust and making promises.

He is a CA student since 2019 and for a long time he didn’t have a job, which caused him a lot of stress. Recently he got a job, but he still has financial pressure.

Between us, things have sometimes become virtually physical, and he shares many of his personal problems with me. Sometimes he even gets jealous if other guys are mentioned.

However, he has also said things like “don’t get too attached.” When he said that once, I stopped talking to him for about two weeks, but during that time he kept messaging me asking if I was angry or if I had blocked him.

Recently he also had a surgery, and after that we started talking again. He once said that among girls I’m the only one he feels comfortable sharing everything with.

But lately his replies have become slower, even though he is active online.

After more than a year of this connection, I honestly feel confused. TL;DR